For Employers: Help for a Struggling Employee

Imagine that you enter your office one morning to find your CFO informing you that the company safe was depleted overnight by more than $100,000 cash without any explanation.    Most leaders would be auditing their books immediately as well as collaborating with their security team or the local police to determine how the money was stolen as well as how to recover it.   Sadly, when a valued employee ends her/his tenure at a company, there is not a similar level of investigation, but simply an internet posting to replace the position 

The Society of Human Resource Management (SHRM) cites employee turnover typically costs an organization about 150% of the departing employee’s base salary to effectively replace the position.   Why so much for turnover as compared to the cost ($10K - $20K) for hiring an employee for a new position?  The costs of departing employees includes temporary labor, replacement training, management staff time coping with the changes, lost revenue and lost customers whose connection to your organization was tied to their relationship with the departing employee.  The company will be adversely affected briefly while re-assigning duties for the departing employee during the recruitment process and followed by three to six months for the new hire to assimilate to the functions of the job.

So why do employees leave?   Many persons incorrectly assume it was a matter of pay.   A famous scene from Mad Men occurs when Don Draper’s protégé Peggy Olsen is seeking recognition, mentoring and autonomy, but he incorrectly presumes financial reasons and attempts to resolve the dilemma by stating, “That’s what the money is for.”   Compensation is often listed near the bottom of the top ten reasons that an employee remains with her/his organization.

Kim Ruyle, Inventive Talent Consulting, emphasizes that employee engagement is a mindset in which employees take personal stakeholder responsibility for the success of the organization and apply discretionary effort aligned with its goals. If you want to retain employees, engage them!

Numerous studies cite the key to employee retention is the relationship between the employee and the employee’s manager.  Employees who perceive loyalty FROM their immediate supervisor are usually aligned with company mission, dutifully complete assigned tasks, and inform managers of problems to mutually solve.

Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman, the authors of First Break the Rules, challenge great managers to spend more time with their best employees.   Too many managers focus their time on their least productive people rationalizing that mindset with the belief that struggling employees need instruction and control.  The underlying message becomes “the better your performance becomes, the less time and attention you will receive from me, your manager.”  

Great managers learn from their most proficient employees, gather their feedback to customize team policies and procedures, and showcase their employee’s talents to other senior leadership. Occasionally, a long-term valued employee will encounter a personal or professional challenge which is adversely affecting the employee’s performance.  A guiding principle of an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is to provide short-term consultation from an expert clinician or Organizational Development specialist to address the reasons for the work challenges and then identify specific objectives to overcome the work challenges and resume expected performance outcomes.   For small business owners who have not included an EAP within their benefit structure, Management Consultations often cost a few hundred dollars, which is a great Return on Investment, compared to the replacement costs cited above.

Sharon Armstrong, author of The Essential Performance Review Handbook, notes that happy employees are ones who stay with a company for an extended period, and that saves time and money.   Are you ensuring that your employees are likely to be retained by emphasizing quality managerial skills to increase your financial bottom line?

5 Love Lessons

Every two months I look forward to receiving the latest issue of Psychology Today which highlights articles about best practice applications for professionals and healthy living tips for interested readers.   An article entitled “Five Love Lessons from Same-Sex Couples” was listed on the most recent front cover.

 

John Gottman, a leading couples’ therapy expert, who leads numerous workshops for therapists was frequently quoted in the article which highlighted several nuances that same-gender couples apply in their marriages/partnerships that heterosexual couples can learn from.   I strongly encourage you to review the article by Hara Estroff Marano for greater details (clients can find copies of this edition in the waiting room!) of the five highlighted lessons below:

1.       Create Fluid Roles (equitable division of responsibilities)

2.       Sexual Experimenting is a Good Thing (couples have greater permission to seek, discuss and request exploration in the bedroom with their partner often resulting in mutual satisfaction.

3.       Keep Calm Amid Conflict (issues are presented in a positive manner with a commitment to negotiate fairly)

4.       Deal with Being Surrounded by Attractive Others (which adds depth to trusted friendships that support the couple)

5.       Allow for Breathing Room When It Comes to Money, Family and Maybe Even Sex

 

Having cheered on several same-gender couples who have opted to get married in the past year as more US states endorse gay marriage, it remains a privilege to assist married couples (heterosexual or same-gender) keep their vows intact, negotiate through challenges, and behave like they were first in love.

 

Having worked with dozens of heterosexual and same-gender couples for the past twenty years, I really enjoyed the article’s emphasis on direct communication and negotiation, key components to successful outcomes in couples therapy.  Contact me at dnelson@ftlcfit.com or 954 789 9061 with additional questions or to inquire about therapy services at FTLCFIT.  

 

Developing Reliable Friends

I'm honored to present a workshop on the Topic of Developing Reliable Friends at Sun Serve on Friday, February 27th at 6:30 PM.

Crystal meth use for most gay and bi men also involves the “party and play” sex scene in which friendships are about getting naked and using drugs together.   Stopping crystal meth use often involves changing the circle of friends; that task is a challenge for a person of any age.

This seminar will address how to establish friendships that are not based on sex or on using drugs together, how to develop a set of friends that support your non-use, and qualities to look for in prospective allies and confidantes in your drug-free lifestyle.

Developing Reliable Friends.pdf